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Elephant in the room

Let's talk about the elephant in the room nobody talks about 🐘
Stay-At-Home parent depression....


Happy mother reading to kids

               People think they have no right to complain about being gifted with the opportunity to sit at home all day and raise THEIR OWN kids! But it's really not that simple! Of course they are so extremely grateful to be able to stay at home and raise them, but that is literally all they become!


 No one talks about the isolation.
No one talks about the loss of identity.
No one talks about the loneliness.
No one talks about the sense of  lost self.
No one talks about how careers are put on hold because it's cheaper for someone to stay
home.
No one talks about how you crying in the shower because of how overwhelming the day was.

No one understands why they are tired.
No one understands why they are irritable.
No one understands why they need a mental break.
No one understands why they are so aggravated with your kids. 
No one understands why after they've been home all day, the house is a wreck still.
No one understands why they just need 5 minutes with no one speaking to or touching you.
No one understands why they've lost their sex drive.
No one understands why they're completely and utterly exhausted, even though, they just sit at home all day 😒
No one understands the feeling of being told they don't have a "real job".

Most were working at one point. They got to go to a job and interact with other adults outside their home. They had their own income. They didn't feel like an endless maid. They got a break away... space from the people they live with (children, spouse... etc)  EVERY relationship needs time away!   Being around anyone 24/7 will drive you crazy. And it's just not healthy.

 Regardless of popular beliefs... 
YOU👏NEED👏A👏 BREAK 👏 DAILY 👏

I can't tell you how many people say things like  "oh, you have too much time on your hands" "I sure wish I could stay home, I wouldn't complain" I can guarantee you will change your mind 6 months into it! People truly don't realize what all comes with being a stay at home parent.

 Oh but YOU chose to have those kids. YOU should've thought about that before having them. If you didn't want to go through all this YOU should've never had kids.
Seriously....heard all those before!

 Next time you hear or see a stay at home parent venting their frustrations, listen and make them feel like they are somebody. Let them know that their struggles and feelings are valid. You know, even though they don't have a "real job"...but these are just some thoughts from the mind of a stay at home parent.




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